Saturday, April 16, 2011

‘談’何容易

Once upon a time there was a painter who had just completed his course. He took 3 days and painted beautiful scenery. He wanted people's opinion about his caliber and painting skills.

He put his creation at a busy street-crossing. And just down below aboard which read -"I have painted this piece. Since I'm new to this profession I might have committed some mistakes in my strokes etc. Please put a cross wherever you see a mistake."

While he came back in the evening to collect his painting he was completely shattered to see that whole canvass was filled with Xs (crosses) and some people had even written their comments on the painting.

Disheartened and broken completely he ran to his master's place and burst into tears.
This young artist was breathing heavily and master heard him saying"I'm useless and if this is what I have learnt to paint I'm not worth becoming a painter. People have rejected me completely. I feel like dying"

Master smiled and suggested "My Son, I will prove that you are a great artist and have learnt flawless painting. Do as I say without questioning it. It WILL work."

Young artist reluctantly agreed and two days later early morning he presented a replica of his earlier painting to his master. Master took that gracefully and smiled.

"Come with me. " master said.

They reached the same street-square early morning and displayed the same painting exactly at the same place. Now master took out another board which read -"Gentlemen, I have painted this piece. Since I'm new to this profession I might have committed some mistakes in my strokes etc. I have put a box with colors and brushes just below. Please do a favor. If you see a mistake, kindly pick up the brush and correct it."

Master and disciple walked back home.

They both visited the place same evening. Young painter was surprised to see that actually there was not a single correction done so far. Next day again they visited and found painting remained untouched. They say the painting was kept there for a month for no correction came in!

Moral of the story:
It is easier to criticize, but DIFFICULT TO IMPROVE!

So don't get carried away or judge yourself by someone else’s criticism and feel depressed...

感謝CM和我分享這篇文章,提醒我們
1.會評估和建議的人是有他的自由這麽做的(自己何償也是會對别人這麽做)
2.聽的人要了解自已為何在意(從自己聽到的感受去考量到别人的感受)

Monday, April 4, 2011

命運規劃局 The Adjustment Bureau


魅力十足的年輕眾議員大衛倪瑞斯,麥特戴蒙飾,在即將成功當選美國參議員的前夕遇見一名美麗的現代芭蕾舞舞者伊莉絲,愛蜜莉布朗飾,他從來沒見過像她這樣的女人,然而就當他發現自己愛上她的時候,一群陌生人卻竭盡所能阻止他們再度相遇。大衛發現他必須反抗命運,也就是命運規劃局的幹員,他們會使用強大的力量阻止大衛和伊莉絲在一起。大衛為了克服這個成功機率幾乎是零的難關,必須忘了她,接受他被規劃好的人生,或是為了和她在一起,放棄一切,反抗命運的規劃。

每個命運規劃局的幹員手裡會帶著一本被規劃好的人生冊子,確定被他監視的對象有依照著規劃好的人事物進行,如果錯過了或突發狀況就會想辦法協助他們回到軌道。

當大衛競選參議員時,被新聞負面的報導他以往的打架,學生時代脫褲的事件等讓他落敗。此時命運規劃局幹員開始想辦法在為他補救以讓他不放棄從政。

大衛重遇讓他念念不忘的女生,然而這個相遇卻不在他原本規劃的人生冊子里,所以命運規劃局幹員想盡辦法阻止他們見面,要不然他的人生將會有變化。

命運規劃好大衛必須順利當上參議員,過程中命運規劃幹員會扮演負面的角色以創造他對女生的自責感,如果他堅持要跟她在一起,將剝奪她未來舞蹈事業,這樣他會一手毀了她的一切,最後選擇黯然離開她,接受被規劃好的人生,後來他當上議員,她也成名了,可是彼此過得不快樂。最終,他還是選擇堅持要把她找回來,想盡辦法,經過重重得困難,最後他們彼此得真愛也感動了主席,決定讓他們在一起並重新設定他們的命運。


同樣在生活上,我們對想做得事情抱持有多堅持的心念,有多少次遇到幾次的障礙或被內心的恐懼,自責,失落等打敗並相信是真的而放棄。然而這一切都是守護著我們的天使的用心和精心設計,為了要我們完成自己今生選擇要學習的課題, 也許這個課題,是堅持,不放棄,相信,愛。。只要我們做到了,這把鑰匙就可以讓我們重寫生命人生。

啓動原始碼 Source Code


電影介紹:
傑克葛倫霍飾演一名參與政府「腦波原始碼」實驗計劃的特種部隊上尉「柯特」奉命調查一宗芝加哥火車炸彈恐怖攻擊事件。
在這項前所未有的實驗中,他的腦波將被植入目擊遇難者的腦海,重返整個恐怖攻擊事件爆炸前八分鐘的時空現場,企圖透過景像還原,來追查炸彈客真兇。

當他從實驗中途醒來時,發現自己已被轉移到火車爆炸前的車廂內一位通勤上班族「史恩」身體裡。坐在他眼前的是「史恩」的女友但「柯特」卻一點也不認識她,他一心只想緊緊把握這短短的八分鐘,去尋找任何可疑炸彈客與蛛絲馬跡。「柯特」必須一次又一次地進入「史恩」這位遇難者的身體,再從痛楚萬分的爆炸中甦醒與實驗團隊重新分析鎖定目標後,又再次重返現場重複經歷可怕的火車爆炸直到找出元兇為止.

當「柯特」終於快要發現爆炸的始末與真相時,他發現在一次次與「史恩」女友的短短八分鐘互動後,竟然對她心生憐惜。就在最後一次透過「腦波原始碼」實驗重返爆炸前現場時,他做了一個最大膽的決定──他不只要揪出真兇,還要把她帶離現場,救她一命


印象很深刻,柯特幾次的被要求重新再回到火車爆炸前的8分鐘去找出元兇,很多次的過程中都出狀況,從一開始不清不楚被轉移到另一個人身上,到來來回回在毫無頭緒的情況下去找出藏炸彈的地方,到懷疑錯元兇,錯過時間,火車爆炸了,到發現自己其實已經死亡了兩個月。
就這樣因為多次的失敗再多次的重回火車爆炸8分鐘前,他也越來越清楚,會遇到的人,地方,聽到的話,他才得以找到元兇以就了百萬人的性命。
最後,他決定再回去8分鐘前,順利的阻止爆炸發生,逮到元兇,假扮自己的朋友打了一通電話給爸爸,也因此知道爸爸是愛他的,最後,他對她說如果只剩下一分鐘,她希望做甚麼?

如果事情已經發生,我們也知道結果是甚麼,再讓自己回到8分鐘前會怎麼做?可能會像柯特都是沒有順利處理好,可能很清楚不想再重複已經發生的問題,而避免了狀況發生。

如果只剩下一分鐘,我們想做甚麼?可能繼續喝下正在喝著的咖啡,正在趕著的一分報告,或著想起還沒跟自己的家人說的一句話,或著想跟自己最愛的親人在一起,偶爾不妨可以問問自己這個問題,提醒自己一下。